Q. Does my addicted family member need to agree to the intervention?
It is not necessary for your loved one to agree to the intervention, as it is common for them to be in denial, unaware of the extent of their addiction and the harm they are causing. It is crucial that the family move away from attempts to change their loved one’s behavior and begin focusing on what changes can be made to improve the environment they are living in, to encourage the addicted person to take responsibility for their addiction. These changes can take place without your loved one asking for help; an intervention can provide the best environment to take the first steps towards your loved one engaging with specialist support, and gaining empowerment to move beyond the addiction, and the pain the addiction has caused.
Q. How do I manage the guilt I feel, am I able to cure my loved one’s addiction?
While these feelings can be overwhelming at times, it is important that your loved one realizes that they are responsible for their addiction, and no one else. It is vital that you seek advice and help from an addiction specialist, who can also help manage your feelings of guilt by explaining the intricacies of addiction. By delaying professional help, you may be further enabling your loved one’s addiction and prolonging harmful behavior to your loved one, you and your family.
Q. Does my loved one’s addiction require an intervention?
Addiction is a psychological condition which requires treatment with the same urgency as a physical disease such as cancer. While it might feel like your responsibility to help cure the condition, it is necessary that you seek help from addiction specialists, such as Southworth Associates. If left untreated, your loved one may find themselves incarcerated, hospitalized or in the worst case, dead.
Q. What can I expect from an Interventionist?
The family of the addicted person will usually feel a great degree of pain and responsibility, that the addicted person may not experience while they are in active addiction. For this reason, the Interventionist will take the time to explain the intervention process and the complex nature of addiction. Furthermore, the interventionist will seek to highlight any potential dysfunctional aspects of the family dynamic which may be contributing to the addicted person’s continued substance misuse and how these can be changed. While the addicted person may be aware of the damage their behavior is causing while feeling powerless to their addiction, family members usually find the process of realization of their harmful, enabling behaviors distressing, and so the interventionist will provide emotional support to help ease feelings of guilt.
Q. What if the intervention does not work?
It can be hugely daunting to organize an intervention, especially if previous confrontations have not been successful and even caused worse behavior from your loved one. However, with the help of an experienced, skilled professional, there is a chance that an intervention will make a difference. By believing you can support your loved one alone, or that they can fight the addiction themselves, you create the potential risk for the addiction to progress and worsen, with possibly devastating consequences. The potential outcomes of delaying support will be far worse than the risks of a failed attempt, and Southworth Associates are here to support you through the process.
Q. What significance do parents and partners have in relation to a loved one’s addiction?
Those close to the addicted person will be affected by, and in turn, affect the loved one’s addiction. While partners will usually be too enmeshed in the addiction to seek help, parents of the addicted person typically demonstrate enabling behaviors, such as providing money, emotional and practical support which prevent the individual from facing up to their condition and requiring them to begin the process of change.
It is believed that the father of the addicted person is a key figure in facilitating engagement with specialist services.
Q. Is an intervention necessary for alcoholism?
An addiction to alcohol can have the same devastating affects as addictions to drugs. Despite alcohol being socially acceptable and legally accessible, addiction to alcohol can escalate and worsen quickly and become a serious condition. It can be particularly challenging for an alcoholic to recognize they need help, and to cut through their denial. For this reason, an intervention is vital to their recovery.
Q. What can I do to reduce the detrimental impact of an addicted person’s behavior on our family?
It is necessary to establish and maintain clear and understandable boundaries; with these in place it sets in stone what is, and is not acceptable behavior. When these boundaries are broken, it is easier to communicate the consequences of this to the addicted person. Furthermore, providing a place to live for your loved one, as well as money and transportation can be enabling their addiction further, and leave your family vulnerable to manipulation and disappointment. Interventions with Southworth Associates can help provide advice and assistance in establishing these boundaries and explaining the consequences of continuing to demonstrate enabling behavior. We are here to help you overcome feelings of guilt, shame and responsibility and move towards a better future.
Q. What causes an addicted person to continue using drugs or alcohol?
Addiction is often found concurrently with psychological conditions, which results in the condition being difficult to navigate and understand. Drug and alcohol abuse alters cognitive functioning over time, and therefore an addicted person will dedicate all their efforts to feed their addiction in order to satisfy their cravings. This leaves things that used to be important, such as educational or professional commitments, relationships and hobbies as secondary concerns. This can be particularly painful for those close to them, and it requires professional help with an intervention specialist to begin the process of change.
Q. Can my loved one decide which treatment center they engage with?
We would strongly advise against your loved one having the choice for which treatment center they engage with. It is likely they will choose a center that will allow them to continue to avoid addressing the, often painful, underlying causes for their addiction due to their lower levels of liability. Those centers that are easier to complete are often those that result in a higher risk of relapse. It is natural that while your loved one is still in active addiction they will choose the path of least resistance in order to maintain their addiction and avoid taking true responsibility. In our experience, engagement with addiction specialists that require the addicted person to feel challenged in order to come to terms with their addiction, away from their support network. For these reasons, it is best that this decision is made by a professional, like Southworth Associates.
Q. Can Southworth Associates help select a treatment center aligned with my insurance plan?
Our services include advice and information on the benefits and possible drawbacks around which treatment center to choose, and which programs are covered by your insurance.
Q. Are there treatment options besides a 12-step program?
Of course, there are a wide range of treatment options available, all of which we can discuss with you to make sure we choose the one best suited to you and your loved one.
Q. What does it mean to enable an addicted person and their addiction?
To enable an addicted person is to allow harmful and destructive behavior to continue. The loved one’s of an addicted person will typically feel guilt, hope, fear and victimization which allow the addict to manipulate their loved one. Enabling behavior can take the form of financial support, perhaps by supplying them with money, which they may claim is for other things like food, accommodation or education. Furthermore, providing emotional support to an addicted person without confronting them around their substance misuse can be perpetuating their addiction. Recovery can only begin once the addicted person is left without this support network and they are forced to address the damage they are causing to themselves and their loved ones. The nature of addiction means that the addicted person will try to manipulate those around them in order to feed their addiction and must receive treatment from an interventionist.
Q. How do I help my loved one take responsibility for their behavior, and stop blaming their addiction on me or our family?
Denial is a powerful tool that addicted people need in order to prevent them from facing the true damage they are causing those they love. For this reason they will avoid taking responsibility and instead attempt to place the blame on other people, particularly those closest to them. It is important that boundaries are established and maintained to protect yourself from repeated emotional harm, and to help encourage your loved one to address the negative consequences that their behavior has caused.
Q. Is addiction a disease?
While some people consider addiction a signifier of immorality; addiction is a disease and requires treatment. While some addicts demonstrate immoral behavior as a result of their addiction, this is not a precursor to addiction and the individual will usually behave differently when they are not under the influence. It is important that the addicted person receives specialized support in order to begin the recovery process.
Q. Do some substances require Interventions sooner than others?
While it is a commonly held belief that some substances are more dangerous than others, even substances that are legal, such as prescription medication and alcohol, can have the same devastating effects as an addiction to an illicit substance. Interventions will focus on the relationship between the individual and the substance they abuse. Addictions can develop and escalate rapidly; for this reason it is advised that you make contact with us as soon as signs of addiction become apparent.
Q. What is the procedure if children are discovered with the addict?
It is crucial that the child is removed immediately from the situation to a safe place. The child may be suffering psychological trauma as a result of the potentially dangerous environment; action must not be delayed.
Q. What happens after the Intervention?
Following the Intervention, the addicted person will begin their treatment plan. It is likely that the individual will object to the circumstances they suddenly find themselves in, and it is therefore important they are assisted by a skilled professional.
It is important that the addicted person completes their treatment program and does not return home under the premise that their situation has improved, and further treatment is not necessary. Although it may be painful being apart from your loved one, to allow them to return home before program completion demonstrates enabling behavior that can negatively impact recovery.
Recovery is a long process and must not be rushed. If there is anything you feel concerned or anxious about, our experienced addiction specialists are here to discuss any risks to recovery and how these can be prevented or overcome, whatever the circumstance.